I just came across a post on “A Soldier’s Perspective” discussing a rather disgusting and disturbing trend that has guys posing as soldiers on Internet dating sites. Here’s the quote from CJ’s:
The latest trend involves trolling internet dating sites and convincing women that they are honorable Soldiers who have fallen in love and would do anything to communicate with the object of their affection. But, because they are deployed to Afghanistan or Iraq, they need you to sign up for an expensive telecommunications service like “Military TELEX” in order to make that happen. They profess unending love as their motivator and, unfortunately, many women have fallen for it.
The BIG red flag here is that the guy is asking for money. NEVER fall for that con.
If you come across anyone on a dating site who is asking you for money, regardless of the reason; block them immediately from further contact and then report them to the internet dating service.
You can also check out who is really behind their email address…
AND / or their telephone number…
To read specific details about about one incident, read CJ’s post “The New Military Dating Scam”.
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to MSG Robert McLaughin
I`m sure I wrote correct email address ending in mail.mil. I can send you all I got an email from this email address (***mail.mil), including the header, if you can check messages, would be nice..But I do not want to do this here, on this side.I don`t know if I should ( I fear) do it on a public website… If you can give me other contact to you please, I will be grateful for help.
Thanks
Marta
Marta,
***mail.mil? I wonder if that is written in HTML? For example you see the time and date below my name here, but when you mouse over it you see a link at the bottom of the browser showing where the click will take you. I can write a code that says one address and will send to another. Best to send emails in text format only. I know of no email address ending in mail.mil. They end in army.mil, navy.mil, and unit names, but not “mail.”
Joan,
You said he had a fake .mil address? You mean an email address ending in .mil? Remember it is the last part after the . that shoes the domain, he email can be SOLDIER@TOPSECRETARMY.COM and it is a .com not a .mil.
Hi everyone!
I am talking with a scammer from 2,5 month. At the beginning everything was ok, but I began to wonder how you can fall in love so fast on the Internet.Someone does not know me and follow in love with me?Maybe I make mistakes in my life, but I’m not desperate woman. I decided to conduct my own investigation. You have no idea how many things you can find on the internet (among other things, I found this side) I started by checking the IP address of the scammer and his “commander” who has sent me a document Vocational Leave Form (just as I thought it was a false – I checked it sending it to the Chief Investigative Operations, HQ, U.S. Army Criminal Investigation Command (his email is ****mail.mil – so, I know it `s true)
IP address his commander belong to CA , because his ISP( Internet Service Provider) for his email addres is in California….but in another email , I found a different IP address, it is belong to Ghana …I don’t ask myself why, because I knew that “my soldier” and his commander are scammers( maybe it is one and the same person?)
My investigation it went much further, I have a page on which this “soldier” was banned as a scammer, I have another fake dokuments, AKO Landing, phone number… and … what next? I would like to know true, who is this man(scammer) Maybe once I will know the truth.. But at this moment the only thing we can do is share your information in such side as here.
Girls,you can`t believe guys who love you in the Internet, until you didn`t check them and NEVER NEVER SEND THEM A MONEY.Fortunately they are here smart people who can help such women as we. Thank you all.
P.S My soldier is Michael Hayes, his Commander is Mark E Calvert
Sorry for my English, Is not my native language..
To Red
I will say the same to you as I previously mentioned to another lady on here, if you have pictures to post then go to ROMANCESCAM and post them on there with all of the information you have, like emails, conversations etc. I have used and posted on there myself.
Best wishes wendy x
To Joanne
If you wish to post pictures go to a website called ROMANCESCAM and post them on there together wth all of the information you have, like emails, conversations etc. I have used this site and posted on there myself.
I was in tears by the time I finished reading your post, although I never lost any money, it mirrored my own pain, devastation and heartache, as like you I thought I had found someone special.
I will say and I am sure others will tell you the same, in time you will come through the otherside of this a much stronger person than before, I know I am, do take good care of yourself Joanne
Love wendy x
I been scammed by a so called Sgt Roland Stout …look out for roland_stout@yahoo.com ive been to police and bank fraud squad the scammers have stole his identity hes a real soldier wish i could find the real guy i fell for 🙁 any way to upload pics? anyone else had this person approach them>? origionally on face book …..
Again how do. I post pictures of the soldier I thought I was talking to and his identity stolen I want to try and fund him let him know his photos being used by Scammers ….who have just ripped me off for six grand 🙁 I’m still in shock and feel violated and humiliated I reported it to police and fraud squad few days ago ..is there any way to find the lovely soldier I fell for and warn him his photos being used to rip off women I’m devastated at the moment any advice help would be grateful …..I asked for army.mil email Scammers got a fake one from MyOwnEmail site so Scammers do that also now ….any help advice grateful received …I’m now in a hell of a mess because of these Scammers 🙁 and broken hearted thought I had a real soldier.
Plus I thought I had checked him out even clever enough to get fake army.mil address ….opened bank accounts in my name and ripped me off watch out for Roland_stout@yahoo.com
Just thought I would share this with others. There is a site called PIGSPY, just follow the directions at spypig.com, attach the little icons provided and attach to emails. It informs you where the IP address originates from. Has saved me time in catching the scammers. Try it, it works.
I have been scammed big time …look out for men pretending to be Sgt Roland Stout I’m goibg to try and trace the honourable soldier in the photos ….can anyone help .?
I cannot believe these pcs of diahrea can sit back and laugh at us ! Unfortunately I was fooled to believe in this person named Jones Kay , different to what I see you ladies have had but the Same story of a parcel but with money in it then just before departing back to the US he was under investigation followed by a jail sentence if bail was not not met , OMG how could I have been sucked in like that .
You and then have the struggle of dealing with emotional deception of love as well as the stolen money . They can take our money ladies but they cant take your spirit away , May gods love and your angels comfort you and wrap you with unconditional love , hold onto that and know you are a good person .
what a story we all could write about ? The low life scum of the earth not even worth crying over . keep your head up !
It came to a point for me that I was going to meet Jones in a Miami Jail , where he said he would have the police meet me at the airport and escort me back to where he was , for some reason it took 2 days just to try and purchase the ticket and even when I was in the flight centre to pay my card was not on me ??? My angels were making every possible block wall for me not to purchase the flight ticket and only a one way ticket was all I could afford , as that is all I had left .We were to fly back to Australia to start our life . Who knows what may have happened to me if I got on that flight , In the end it all seemed to hard I had to listen to the universe and surrender and decided not to go . I have not heard from him since .
If there is a group where we can meet and try to find these scum I would dearly love to be apart of it , so we could try to stop others falling into the same trap . MAYBE WE SHOULD FORM A GROUP ??
Even though this happened to me it also happens to the family as they see what it does to you . For me I feel I let my family down and feel such shame , but as I say we are them and they cant take our spirit away . Love to you all
how can i send a picture of scammer.
Do you know Major Kenneth Barton? he is also in the scammer list. He wrote poems and asked for help becasue of the package with money and jewelry which is stranden in UK, he need money for Tax and stamps. Have plenty of email addresses.
the name Robert Bill Haggard, this name is also used from an scammer. I know him personally, his name is haggard but not the first name is false. the real Haggard`s mother was a german citizen and his father from Irland. he is us citizen, he is now back to us from Afghan.
Denise, it’s a scam. He is going to want cash to ship a briefcase. And WHY trust cash to an unknown civilian? Too many red flags.
TO DENISE ; MY GOODNESS DO YOU REALIZE THAT THIS IS MOST LIKELY ILLEGAL MONEY HE IS TRYING TO GET OUT OF THE COUNTRY HE IS IN ? ***** COULD BE STOLEN, COULD BE DRUG MONEY, COULD BE MONEY LAUNDERING — MAYBE IT’S NOT EVEN MONEY AT ALL, BUT SOMETHING FAR WORSE. DO YOU REALIZE THE LEGAL RAMIFICATIONS YOU COULD BE UNDER ?? JUST BY ACCEPTING, COULD MAKE YOU AN ACCESSORY. YOU DO NOT KNOW WHO YOU ARE DEALING WITH OVER THE INTERNET UNLESS YOU HAVE MET THEM FACE TO FACE IN REAL LIFE – AND I DO NOT MEAN OVER A CAM. YOU COULD BE GETTING A KNOCK ON YOUR DOOR FROM THE FBI. I AM SURE OTHERS ON THIS SITE WILL AGREE WITH ME.
Denise
I found photos of …Ramos on one of the scammer sites about 12 months ago for someone else, unfortunately I have forgotten the name of the site. Don’t pay too much attention to the first name as that changes regularily, however if the surname is shown on the uniform they are stuck with that.
Remember ladies…..they don’t all ask for money!!!!! I was scammed for a year and he never once asked me for money!! Instead I was receiving money from what I thought were people connected to his deceased fathers estate only to find out year later that it wasn’t “clients” but women such as yourselves !!!! They are incredibly clever these people…. My one “Matthew Lingo” talked to me for 5 months before even mentioning his deceased fathers estate…. And continued to talk to me for 4/5 months after the transactions stopped….thereby making me think he didn’t just want to use me for those transactions!!! When I did eventually find out the truth….from this site….I confronted him and he told me he’d actually developed feelings for me which is why he continued to talk to me. So just be careful….just because they don’t all want your money do NOT mean they are not a scammer!!!!
Was contacted by Mark Rickard via Amigos.com and something told me that it was not true, then found “http://101date.com/internet-dating-scam-fake-soldiers/” this online and realized that you could put down , feik.
Anybody ever heard of Darrin Ramos from the US Army serving in Iraq? This guy has sent me flowers but hasn’t asked me for money, but he wants to send me a breifcase full of money to keep for him in a safe place until he is deployed home.
Maysza, it’s a scammer, block him and run.
Marta, if the email address does not end in .mil then it is not a soldier.
To Maysza: He claims to be British, but has poor English skills. This is number one red flag. You yourself saw a different person on cam, and your eyes do not lie. ANYTIME THEY ASK FOR MONEY…IT IS A SCAM. THAT’S WHAT A SCAM IS. TRYING TO GET MONEY FROM YOU. They have tried the phone scam on me also, only mine said I had to ask his Commanding Officer and it cost $250 dollars. Just another ploy they are using. MSG Robert McLaughlin posts these rules on this site. Ask for Military email address which ends in .Mil. Yahoo Corporate offices are located in Sunnyvale, California. See if you can trace the very last IP number towards the bottom of the header. Sometimes it is blocked, and you can’t get pass the Sunnyvale location unfortunately. I have also found that the Nigerian’s like to use two first names like the one you have David William I am not sure why they do this, but they do. I have had Steve Jerry, Ken Jeff , John Mark, Stanley Jeffrey. So you get the picture ? These have just been a few.Just remember the rule – if they ask you for money – then you have a scammer.
To Marta: If he asks you for money for anything or to pay for anything, then he is a scammer. Use the rules MSG Robert Mclaughlin posts on this site. I googled the name in my browser and this name is associated with many famous real people which could be where he found the name. Send no money.
Hi
Does anyone know about soldier Michael Hayes,he use email address: hayesm37@yahoo.com, or hayesm37@gmail.com ?
If yes, please contact me at : wwdablju@yahoo.com
Hello,
i just meet a man in internet,he say he is british military in Kabul Afganistan,and he is major in British Army.But i think he is not real,for more reason:he can not write corect in english,he send me some pictures and when i insist to see him in cam he say that is not posible because the protocol,i insist about that and he say he will fiind a reason for go to a civilian home for that.When i saw him in cam i know he is not the same man in the pictures.He say he want to talk with me in the phone and for that he need me to send a email to UN to ask permision ,but i will pay a price (the less one is 630 USA dolars.).I send that email and i check the IP is somewere in California.I say him i will think about sending money for he can call me but i want he make the text for that email(i want to check his IP also),but now i am in a dificulty i can not reach that.Please help me to fiind the truth.His name is David William.I just wait some answers.Sorry for my bad english,i am not a native english.Please someone give me answers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
To Jazzie : Just wanted to say that EVERY single one I have ever spoken too on the phone has had an accent. It is a dead give away right from the get go.I have never had one that sounded “American”. I have only had one that had a British accent, but only one, and he was not claiming to be a soldier but in construction in Nigeria. I have not been asked for money by him, but he has had three different strange requests, which I have not complied with, and each request has been suspicious sounding. I am in contact still with this one and am trying to figure out just what he is, although I am pretty sure he is a scammer, Since this one is a little bit different, I am interested in seeing just what kind of schemes he will be using so I keep talking to him, but saying no to his requests. He waits a bit , then comes back and asks again for something else. So far he is on his third request, which at the moment he is supposed to explain further details to me, but has not done so yet.