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Internet Dating Scam: Fake Soldiers

I just came across a post on “A Soldier’s Perspective” discussing a rather disgusting and disturbing trend that has guys posing as soldiers on Internet dating sites. Here’s the quote from CJ’s:

The latest trend involves trolling internet dating sites and convincing women that they are honorable Soldiers who have fallen in love and would do anything to communicate with the object of their affection. But, because they are deployed to Afghanistan or Iraq, they need you to sign up for an expensive telecommunications service like “Military TELEX” in order to make that happen. They profess unending love as their motivator and, unfortunately, many women have fallen for it.

The BIG red flag here is that the guy is asking for money. NEVER fall for that con.

If you come across anyone on a dating site who is asking you for money, regardless of the reason; block them immediately from further contact and then report them to the internet dating service.

You can also check out who is really behind their email address…

AND / or their telephone number…

To read specific details about about one incident, read CJ’s post “The New Military Dating Scam“.

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  1. Could you please let me know if there is a Karl Richardson ADF in afghan please,
    Do not use my surname please

    • Iv been talking to someone smith stefan says he’s in us army but in nigeria but evertime he’s going to get to go home it’s something else he had called an sent pics but something just don’t seem right he won’t send me a live vedio of him or talk to me on face time . But says he wants to come see me I don’t know if he’s real or not he says he is what do y’all think

      • Brenda -It doesn’t seem right because it’s all lies. This is a scammer. By saying he wants to come see you, he is hoping to get personal information on you. We have no troops in Nigeria.

  2. rileyannt says:

    I think I’m being scammed from Nigeria. Hot army guy in pic through online dating site contacted me. Same script: quick to declare undying love..not interested in my replies…..differing scripts, some with bad grammar, some not…..claiming he is at a desert camp in Nigeria, fighting the boko haram and within 2 weeks he asks me to be his beneficiary to some award from the UN for reclaiming money from Nigeria’s looted treasury, which was by officials. He had war tales to tell,,,,rushing out on patrol….shots being fired…even id’ed two of his men by first names whom had been supposedly shot…desert camp (no deserts in Nigeria), and the bad grammar….”am” instead of “I am”…..”put to a test”, instead of take an exam. I’ve googled his email, will not pay spokeo to find it. He claims he is to be the recipient of US 4 mil and needs a beneficiary because he cannot trust his daughter. I said, no, I’ve never met the guy. Stolen poems, bad grammar all scream SCAMMER. I did not contact a bogus email he gave me. So today he chats and tells me to open my email with attachment…..repeatedly I’ve asked for his battalion #, no answer….he claims his id is on the document. Will not open email but delete it. He wanted me to ‘receive his funds’ and keep them safe. I explained a beneficiary has to be a relative, with the Army rules, and no civilian beneficiary gets anything until his death. His reply: “In this case I am not dead”. So he turns it around and says I don’t trust him. Duh. I feel sorry for the image of the army man he stole and reported it to the local office of the FBI. His email, in case anyone can find him: Beware, romance scams from Nigeria of criminals posing as us army is on the rise.

    • Good going Rileyannt. You recognized all the signs. I laughed about your comment, “pays no attention to my replies”…lol. I get that all the time.Their so busy reading their dialog and writing it to you that they pay no attention to what your saying, and they do not care. Sounded like he was trying somewhat to get your info and at the same time was trying to rid himself of his cash build up he has by depositing it with you.He’s trying to hide cash. Course this could mean jail time for you by accepting huge amounts of money like that. It makes me angry they think we are so stupid. I also have one who claims to be after Boko Haram in what he claims is northern Nigeria close to the country Niger but I busted him as a scammer a year ago. You can post the soldiers picture he sent you on Scamwarners, com and also showing the picture is stolen and being used by this scammer marvin schommers. Nigeria is the hotbed of scammers. It is sad as these people are stuck in this country and so many are unemployed. There is no help from their government creating these people who are criminals.

    • Trina Morris says:

      This just happend to me this week!
      I met this guy on Ok Cupid his fake name was Danny Blocker We started talking he asked me to move over to Kik! He said he was a Marine over in Nigeria defusing bombs from Isis! He said he had a son named Castro who was back home with a nanny! That he had full custody of him that his mother was a bad person! Red flags started going up when he kept saying that he wanted forever with me and copy and pasting the same thing over and over! Then he wanted me to pay 80 so that we could talk on a line through the base he was supposedly on. He wanted me to go on western union site and send the 80 .I asked how he was paying his bills back home? He said he didn’t have bills only had to pay nanny?Then he started asking me to send him a phone or tablet! Started hounding me when I was going to send the package and did I have the tablet or phone and he was going to let the base know a package was coming.

      I told him I didn’t have any money and could not afford to pay or send anything! It didn’t matter that I didn’t have money he still wanted it sent! Every time we talked he wanted to know when I was sending the package!
      Today I talked to a co worker that had the same thing happen to them! So I messaged him and said that I wouldn’t be sending anything until we got to know each other more! He got really nasty with me! Wanting to know why I was treating that way and that I wasn’t who he thought I was! I just said that I should be asking him the same thing and that I was done that I didn’t want to talk to him anymore
      And told him to hit the road! The sadest thing about this is I was used and children where involved! Theses people are relentless they will use any tactic to get what they want! They don’t care who they hurt in the process! I won’t be on more dating sites anytime soon!

      • Trina – We have no troops in Nigeria diffusing bombs. ISIL is not their major terrorist group . I learned a long time ago to forget dating sites. Infected with scammers. It is their main hang out. He has same story line I’ve heard many times. He is a scammer and everything you said is true.

  3. I have been dealing with a supposed soldier for over a year. He says his name is Ryan Halinsky and he is presently stationed in Lybia. Has sent me several pictures and has called. Has asked for money numerous times but have not sent any. Never has asked for any personal information. I have used every search engine and posted his picture on several web sites but not have come up with anything. Every time he asks for anything I tell him I would gladly send it to him. But he constantly tells me it has to go theu an agent in Nigeria. Haha! He just will not give up. Tried blocking him several times but he keeps getting thru blew me know if you have heard his name mentioned before. Thank you.

    • Sorry his email is That is what I email to. His emails sometimes come to me as Halinsky Ryan or Ryan or the above. I think that is why I am having a hard time blocking. Phone calls come thru as no caller id.

    • Deb – Ryan Halinsky is no stranger to the internet. All I did was type in his name in my google browser. I came up with several articles concerning that name. Try again. He has been reported on Pig Busters. You might try sending those pictures you have there and also send to and He is known as a scammer. Oh yes and his “agent” in Nigeria is probably him or an accomplice. I don’t believe we have American troops in Libya. Block all the names he uses on your computer and don’t answer calls that have no id. I only pu calls from callers I know. Saves a lot of headache. I hope all ladies are aware that terroists are aiming to get money thru means of scamming . They are alive like a virus on the internet.

      • Thank you. I did find everything and I will be uploading pictures that I have saved to Pig Busters. I have blocked him and will it answer his calls. The pictures that I have are of a soldier, but the uniform is not of an American Soldier.

    • I’ve been talking with this guy on facebook, claiming to be on active duty in Libya, named Henry Paul. He looks to be about 5’8″, dark hair, nice looking and is with a big black and white dog in his profile picture. he’s also wearing sunglasses. I just lost him when I refused to give him money, after he pursued me vigorously for several days. I called the Army, they said it was a scam, to report it to the FBI, so I did.

    • robin gilbert says:

      Hey I found out there’s no troops there, block him ignore him he is full of crap, go on the army website and there is info to turn them in i have turned in 3 of them!!!

  4. To Deborah – I did some research for you. My source of info is from Google. Asking “What is a military enlistment contract”. I found info under “Findlaw”. It stated joining the military requires the signing of an enlistment contract. Go there for more info. There is a lot of it. Next I googled “how to become a sniper in special forces”. Here also is a lot of info you can read up on. There is a special sniper school and takes quite an indepth of training. I still think he is a scammer. Even tho he may have some right info, it only means he has done his homework. You can block his number on your phone yourself. You do not need your phone service to do that and ignore and delete his emails or change your number. You were not clear exactly why he stated he wanted the 10,000 from you but never fork over any money. His story I have heard many times before ( finding money). It is not a new story. He will continue to haunt you as long as he thinks you are still tied to him emotionally and intrigued by him. That’s all they need for encouragement. Many of them don’t give up easily if they think they can wear you down and give in. Also he has to have been in for 20yrs before he can begin retirement but don’t tell him that. As an interesting point you could ask him how long he has been in and see what his answer is before finally blocking him, and not giving out SSN and License info is standard advice their given for their own security, not because he signed a contract. And finally thanks for the coffee offer. I’ve a book of stories i could write.

  5. I had met this solider online just recently. And I have been skeptical of him ever since since I heard of these scammers and catfish. I have asked him to send me photos and he has. I have plugged them into google reverse image finder and nothing has come up. I have also googled him and nothing has come up. I have told him i have a hard time believing that he is real. I don’t think two people can develop a connection online it is just weird to me. His name is Paul Ingle but he sent me a picture and the name on his uniform was Curtis…he than told me he doesn’t give people his real name because there are many crazy people out there. We keep talking and he keeps assuring me he is real and that in 24 days plus I will know he is real when he comes back from his deployment. And also he says he keeps wishing we met before he left so I wouldn’t doubt him. Has anyone ran into this before? Here is that part that makes me skeptical even more. Though he has never asked me for money he has said his son is without money where he studies abroad and he is doesn’t know how to get it to him. I told him straight out that I would never send money to anyone I don’t know. Is this a scam?

    • Also I have tried Tin Eye and it came up empty also.

      • Also I am going to be honest I am more afraid that he is real because I am doubting. I am hoping he is fake so I guess that is why I am not asking for email addresses and numbers like people are saying to ask for.

        • Delia – yes it is scary. I know the feeling well. You want him to be real but then you don’t. You get mixed feelings. However, I believe he is fake. I came across several who tried to get money by claiming they needed help for their children. Baloney !! Who would send their child abroad to school with no way to support them ?? That’s ludicrous.

          • Delia – also the pictures he has sent could be fresh new ones not used before. I would report them to tineye and the other places also like scamwarners and romancescam. so others can be warned. I doubt you would find him coming home. He already is at home.

  6. Robin – sorry you got sucked into this guys scam. He is hoping to get more from you and will try. Delete and block him so your not bothered with him anymore. I’m sorry not sure if we have troops on the ground in Libya right now but I don’t think we do. This country is in a lot of turmoil right now. Check these pictures out on, report him to, and Google in your browser asking where you can report romance scams. You will get a lot of info I believe.

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