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Internet Dating Scam: Fake Soldiers

I just came across a post on “A Soldier’s Perspective” discussing a rather disgusting and disturbing trend that has guys posing as soldiers on Internet dating sites. Here’s the quote from CJ’s:

The latest trend involves trolling internet dating sites and convincing women that they are honorable Soldiers who have fallen in love and would do anything to communicate with the object of their affection. But, because they are deployed to Afghanistan or Iraq, they need you to sign up for an expensive telecommunications service like “Military TELEX” in order to make that happen. They profess unending love as their motivator and, unfortunately, many women have fallen for it.

The BIG red flag here is that the guy is asking for money. NEVER fall for that con.

If you come across anyone on a dating site who is asking you for money, regardless of the reason; block them immediately from further contact and then report them to the internet dating service.

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To read specific details about about one incident, read CJ’s post “The New Military Dating Scam“.

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  1. To Everyone – About a year ago I came across a scammer going by the name of Jeff Turner.His email was MeetJeffTurner on yahoo. I just found him again going by Paul Lee Williams email of paullee_williams on yahoo. He is using same picture of a soldier.He is on and Meetup2 dating sites and probably others as well. He has been proven a scammer so avoid those names.

  2. i have been chatting with this guy who says he is in turkey he’s a agent and it’s confidential he’s with the U.S. Military is this true do we have confidential agents in turkey I really appreciate this site thank you so much

  3. Tracy Norton says:

    Is there anywhere I can find out if a captain John Williams is real he has told me he is currently serving in Afghanistan but there is times I believe him and sometimes I don’t

    • Look at the pictures on the Dating military scam & Im sure you will see him. May have a facebook account under Cjonathan Willam Carson. Good Luck

    • To Tracy Norton – I googled Captain John Williams in my browser and I received info on a Captain John Williams who was in the Military and died in 1812. Your person could have stolen this info as scammers do. You can post a picture on if he has given you one and see if it has been used before. You can ask him for his MOS which is a US Military code used to identify their particular job in the Military. Air Force uses the term AFSC. Ask for his .mil email ID. ( dot Mil ). These are not secret and he can give them to you. If he refuses then he is not real.

  4. how do find out who a pic is of a person who is in the service if anyone is chatting with he is asking for money

  5. I met this guy on tango who said he was in the Sudan do we have soliders there and how can I find out if he is who he say he is?

  6. I met Sgt Clement Lopez who states in was with NATO training the Afghan soldiers how to defend them selves from terrorists. He also teaches survival training to them also. He did say his parents did in a vehicle accident when he was younger and was brought up by his elderly aunt. Who passes away last year. He told me he was allowed to come home home to bury her. This is his 3rd tour in the Middle East. He has been in the Army for 23

    • To Debbi – whoa girl this one is a big time SCAMMER !!! Just go to the top of your screen, and into your browser type Sgt.Clement Lopez !!! This scammer uses about 15 different names. The picture is stolen. Click on the info that comes up in the browser . You will have a lot of interesting reading to do. Not sure which Country he is in, as he has used Ghana, and Nigeria I believe. Just get away from this one.

  7. I met this guy called max cole on plenty of fish “POF” a dating site. He said he was a sergeant in the us army and I gave him about £9000 to help him but obviously he was a scammer please girls b careful don’t let urself b fooled just the way I was I think I was desperately looking for love and the first attention I got I just got carried away but be safe he is a bastard.

  8. Hi I meet this guy on mingle 2 he says he’s sargeant George on a peacekeeping mission in Sudan dufar he ask me to email his commander in the army for him a leave home and he would pay for it are their peace keeping missions in Sudan and do military have to pay for leave?

    • Margaret Rodgers says:

      To Brenda – NO they do not pay for a leave. They earn time on the books for the leaves much the same as you earn time off on your job. When they have the time earned they just submit a request to their Commanding Officer I believe for approval. This one is trying to scam you Brenda.

    • ALso dealt with this guy- major scammer he is and acts so iangry when confronted- ignore him.

    • MSG Robert McLaughlin says:

      He’s fake. We do not pay for leave.

  9. Pavlina Yordanova says:

    I apologize in advance for the quality of my english, but I am from Bulgaria. I come into contact with a man pretending to be General Alexander Newman. I can’t send a picture because h? use only Skype. For the same reason I can’t follow his IP address. I don’t have profiles on dating sites and at the beginning I decided that all this is a joke. For me he is a deceiver because he is on a mission, he has son who is studying Ghana and needs help. When I told him that he is cheater, he was so offended. Moreover, he was offended that I don’t want to help his son. He did not give up, today I told him that I would check his identity, but he is still online on my Skype and wait my help. Is it possible I be wrong and he is real or he is so sure that I can’t find out that he’s lying to me? I am the perfect victim, I don’t speak English well and didn’t even know if this person exists, but he is so sure that already started to doubt myself. I know I’m not an American, but I would be grateful if you answer me.

    • Margaret Rodgers says:

      To Pavlina – you are right about his knowing you would have a hard time tracing him. One of my rules is this. Anytime a man asks a woman for money over the internet the chances are huge that he is a scammer. I never give money to anyone I have never met physically .Actually I don’t give people money. From what you have written, (and they use this my child needs help routinely) I would say it is a scammer. Don’t let him make you feel guilty as that also is a ploy they use always.

      • Pavlina Yordanova says:

        Thank you for the reply, Margaret! This rogue has Netlog profile. From there I have photo of the man whose picture he used. I have no profile on dating sites and all this accidental correspondence was strange for me. Furthermore, I think the generals of any country are too busy to write with random women on the internet. I don’t believe in love at “first shot”, but I see that many women are victims of fraud. Would you tell me where I should send photo which this rogue used? This will help other potential victims. When I looked on the internet for this man, I saw that he had a profile on Netlog. The only person on the internet who meets these data is: “Alexander Newman (October 5, 1804 – September 8, 1849) was a nineteenth-century politician from Virginia”

        • To Pavlina – I was on Netlog several years ago and I found nothing but scammers on there. The first scammer who ever contacted me used the name of Walter Bruston. He contacted me on my Facebook account asking to be friends and had posted a picture of a soldier. When I became suspicious of him I googled this name he gave and found this man had died in the 1800’s. When I told him I found this info on the internet his response was, “you mean I am dead ?” They play games like this with you. They will stay with you as long as you allow them, or some of them will just move on to another victim. You just have to delete them and block them. I turned his pictures into I believe you also can on too. You are right about the Generals -they indeed are too busy to be looking for romance. I hardly think that is their priority.

    • MSG Robert McLaughlin says:

      He’s not real. Amerian Generals do not have kids in Ghana among many other things.

      • Pavlina Yordanova says:

        I’m sure of it! At first I thought that all this is a joke. Then he asked me to pay the school fees of his son who is studying in Ghana with Western Union money transfer, the name of Ndubuisi Roland, ha-ha. I realized that this is no joke, this is attempt at deception! I would never sent my son to study in Ghana …. Thank you for your response too!

  10. I have met a young lady on line that she is in Benin on a training mission with the U. S. Army. Just got deployed there in January. She has sent me pics of her son that is supposedly in the U.S.A. we have been writing about 2 months now. Do we have troops over there?

    • MSG Robert McLaughlin says:

      RUN AWAY! Sure smells of fraud. Ask for a picture of them with the computer screen showing your email or picture. Upload pics she sends you to to authenricate. ask for friends at home. Today everyone has Facebook, check the age of the account and activity. I’d a January deployment announced? Ask for info like MOS, DOR, and so on. Still I doubt very much it is real.

    • To Ronald – I am pretty sure we have not sent troops to Benin for any reason. I don’t think we send them there for training You can check with MSG Robert McLaughlin on this site. He is very helpful. I feel reasonably sure you have a scammer.

  11. I meet this guy on mingle 2 said he’s deployed to syria lost his wife and kid and told me he loved me within few chats are the U.S. military in Syria ? His email is roberttravis729@yahoo. Com please let me no he’s not ask for money yet but I don’t no if he’s a scammer thank you

    • I would like to add he said he’s on a peacekeeping mission in Syria not sure if he’s real thank you

      • I have a gentlemen that said that to me from there and he was a scammer. Be careful.

      • Margaret Rodgers says:

        To Brenda – last time I heard we have not sent troops into Syria. Terrorists are all over Syria big time so I would avoid this person.

    • I would highly doubt it .Ask him to talk to you on phone ..hear his voice ..picture of his kids and wife along with him .
      First thing he will honey coat you with all compliments may receive a flower or gift too .
      Then he is probably going to ask you money sooner that way you will know he is a scam.

    • To Brenda – I watch our news pretty closely, monitoring it everyday. To my knowledge we do not have American troops on the ground , yet, in Syria. Syrian troops in deep battle with terrorist’s at this time.

    • Im sure he is on Facebook as Scott Mark

  12. In Russian it is not clear. I am a widow, I wrote lawson pat , attach photo Major General Tim Mchail. This I found out later conversation immediately stopped. Learn all found on the Internet about the general. And since I have a letter attached it to his face, I’d like to meet him. Or not worth it? Russia so far from America.

    • To Evgenia – Usually, but not always, when the scammer thinks your on to him, he will stop the conversation. Sometimes they will contact you again only using a different name and scenario. Anytime your intuition steps in, your feeling is most likely right. I know the Military will not disclose info on the troops for security and privacy reasons You probably would be wasting your time and wind up disheartened and disappointed.

  13. Margaret Rodgers says:

    Ok Gay now your learning the in’s & out’s of their game. I ALWAYS assume they are a scammer, before ever giving them credit for being a honest person. He would have to prove it to me. Chances are 99 percent nil they are not honest. I only met one soldier out of over 300 the past 4 years that was real. Not a scammer but was a real exhibitionist pervert !! I no longer look for the love of my life online. First, it is too dangerous. I have concluded that real men arn’t looking for it online either.

    • MSG Robert McLaughlin says:

      Actually plenty of folks do look for love online. I did. The best part about connecting online is that you remove the physical attraction (i.e. beer goggles), you remove the worry that you are dressed okay or your hair looks okay, you remove the concern about did I take her to a good restaurant, does she like the food, and all that. You end up with only one thing with which to connect — the human mind.

      I have met some fantastic people online I may not have even given the time of day to in person. Age, race, religion, height, you name it, it is all removed from the equation. Sure you want to know that about the other person, as they do about you (and in time you better meet lest your dreamy thoughts exceed anyone’s capabilities). But yes, meeting online happens, and for the good. And if the person is boring online, then their persona is non-existent, and you have saved yourself lot of hassle, and still retain your relative anonimity.

      Hi everyone! I have been away from the site but wanted to check in and say hi. I still have folks asking me about military dating, and as usual the conmen have no remorse and are as brazen as ever. They are fishing for the big money and have all the time in the world.

      One little hint for those of you who may talk to a person you met again… I used to write down names of people I talk with online and also things like birthdates or kid’s names or stuff that I would like to remember. Or what city you are in. Saves me looking dumb. Go ahead and do that and see if the stories you get match over time. It’s an investment to have a long running story, they scammers will find easier bait.

      Also when they send you a picture upload it to to see if it is real or did they steal it off of the Internet.

      Good luck out there!

      • Hello Robert – You’ve been missed. This site has been so fortunate to have you here looking out for us. I have always taken every little bit of advice you’ve shared including all you just mentioned. You helped me through the last 4 years tremendously. I was never lucky dating on the internet as you were. Out of 300 men that contacted me, only found one that was real, and he was a real pervert. Ha ! Of course that is not to say everyone will have the same experience I had.Thank you for all your advice and support. You are gold.

  14. Margaret Rodgers says:

    Mel – actually it doesn’t matter whether Daniel, Danny, or Horatio…..they use fake names, and change it with each person they chat with most of the time. The same person can be chatting with me using one name, and chatting with you using some other name.

  15. Margaret Rodgers says:

    To Lori – I posted to you on Dec.16, 2014 that to my knowledge we had no troops in Somalia. I Learned today we have or had some around 200 units in Somalia but not sure if they are still there. Operation was called “Operations Restore Hope & United Shield. Can’t say the person you chatted with was one of them or not. This was on my News Feed today in Facebook. My hunch is still you have a scammer but I needed to let you know this info. Some of the scammers really keep up on where troops are.

  16. Margaret Rodgers says:

    To Bekka – there is a bright side to your story believe it or not. First most of us on this website at one time or another have felt what your feeling, including myself. Second, you found out the truth. Third, your now much wiser. I know it hurts. One reason I study them, to try and help others with what I have learned from my own experiences. It took me six months to remove the picture of a soldier that a scammer had sent me he was pretending to be from my desk. This was almost 4 years ago and it still hurts. So I know what your going through. Your best to realize your not alone and I bet it won’t happen to you again.

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