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Internet Dating Scam: Fake Soldiers

I just came across a post on “A Soldier’s Perspective” discussing a rather disgusting and disturbing trend that has guys posing as soldiers on Internet dating sites. Here’s the quote from CJ’s:

The latest trend involves trolling internet dating sites and convincing women that they are honorable Soldiers who have fallen in love and would do anything to communicate with the object of their affection. But, because they are deployed to Afghanistan or Iraq, they need you to sign up for an expensive telecommunications service like “Military TELEX” in order to make that happen. They profess unending love as their motivator and, unfortunately, many women have fallen for it.

The BIG red flag here is that the guy is asking for money. NEVER fall for that con.

If you come across anyone on a dating site who is asking you for money, regardless of the reason; block them immediately from further contact and then report them to the internet dating service.

To read specific details about about one incident, read CJ’s post “The New Military Dating Scam“.

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  1. Margaret Rodgers says:

    TO Concerned In Plano – Please – you have a scammer. The Military pays for everything needed. Block and delete asap.

  2. Young female soldier Lanie Thurman on various dating sites and on Facebook. Very good cover story, but the bad English and the rapidity with which “she” became attached was a dead giveawy.

    That darned US Army won’t even pay for its soldiers to come home on leave, did you know that? ;) I just hope Ms. Thurman finds out this is happening. I don’t know if there’s anything she can do, but she can definitely lock down her online profiles so no more photos can be stolen.

  3. Margaret Rodgers says:

    To Jan
    Before any Military personnel can retire he must have 20 yrs of service in. You might casually ask how long he has been in but do not give him that information. See if he trips up. A couple of the tips we were given on this website is to ask for their MOS, and a dot mil email id. All service personnel are given one. It will not end in .com. These are permitted to give out. If he gives you an excuse not to reveal it then that is a red flag. Since you have a name,and supposedly a birthdate and residence, you could go online to one of the website’s available and search the info. I had to frown when he said he lost his wallet. Not sure but I don’t think they take such items on patrol. They have id tags and name on clothing. It just doesn’t sound right to me. Sorry but my gut instinct says scammer.

  4. Margaret Rodgers says:

    To Deborah
    Yes you definitely have a scammer. The “Agent” he is referring to is usually someone who works in a Western Union store and helps the scammers collect the funds coming in. They are in on the scam and receive a percentage of what comes in. Nigeria is high on the risk list for known crime along with Ghana, Benin, and Malaysia just to name a few.

    • Thanks Margaret.., I have known it for some time now. But., he does not know that I know. It’s been a year now. I have enjoyed our conversations. They truly know what to say to a girl. And how to get really engaged in a conversation. I believe that when you treat good people bad.., bad things will happen to you. “God does not like ugly”. I am going to miss talking to a stranger.(not)

  5. Has any one been writing to Master Sargent Huynh Adams. Email : I have for sometime now. This person is a total scam. Supposed with died in an accident ., one son with his grandmother. Has used up his allotment to them. He have been trying to retire from the military since last year but they c
    Keep holding him. (Supposed sniper). This guy will ask you for money, and has an agent for you to send it to in Nigeria . Ladies…, Watch out!!!!!. He talks a very smooth game . And will fall for you in a minute. Just checking to see if anyone else has heard from him. Pictures on the internet are probably fake and stolen. Nice looking guy though.., but fake just the same. WATCH OUT ladies. DW

    • concerned in plano says:

      I have a Freddie David Don who I have been communicating with over the past few weeks. He says he is in Afganastan. Been in the army for 20 years, going to retire. If I want him to come home early, I pay the trip back and they pay me back in 3 days. I have been requested to western union money to someone in Revere Massachusetts. I have gotten some very credible emails from the Army Transit consultant. Could this be possible that I would need to pay nearly 2000 to fly him back?

      • I would be willing to bet that 99.9% of the guys/gals that you women/men are asking about are SCAMMERS! One should not have to send ANYONE in the MILITARY MONEY! END OF STORY! But y’all go on ahead and mortgage your house and send him money to get home on or money for his son that is staying with his grandmother because his wife died. It’s the SAME STORY EVERY TIME! People GET A CLUE!

  6. Margaret Rodgers says:

    To Janet H
    I need to know if your post is directed to me. I do not know a Juan Martinez or anyone using the email id of Badass_78. I also am not familiar with this KIK so I do not know what they can do. I would however print the header info from his threatening email and turn it over to all law enforcement agencies. Sorry I do not understand how I am connected to his email.
    Now I would like to let all know that most civilians have left SYRIA if they HAVE BEEN ABLE TO, and there are only SYRIAN soldiers there fighting off the ISIS invasion. There are no other outside troops deployed there. Please do not believe anyone who says they are stationed there and please do not send funds there. You could be aiding terrorist. This Country is totally torn apart by war/ Don’t send money to anyone. Money to Nigerian scammers is funneled off to Boko Haram terrorist. Stay off Badoo, it is 95 percent scammers.

  7. How do I know if I am being scammed? I would like to check if there is a Capt. James Manson, Captain US army in Kabul, Afghanistan. He said he was getting ready to retire, and has had multiple delays on his coming back to the states. He say they have been their almost two years and he has been orphaned, never married, and has no one. We have been talking for about 6 mos. and he seems very sweet. He said he is most recently from Austin, TX. His birthdate was Nov. 3 and he will turn 50 this year. He will not give me an address and has asked for money after he lost his wallet while in a firefight out on patrol. If anyone know anything about him please let me know.

    • Annie Velasco says:


      Don’t believe him just let him go. I spent 6 months talking to someone who said he was from Texas as well. He was very sweet as well. He wouldn’t give me an address to send care packages and was also involved in firefights. Didn’t say he lost his wallet there, but that doesn’t matter. Who needs a wallet in the middle of the desert any way. If he is getting ready to retire then the military will send him home when his time comes. He will have time to get his retirement together and do all of his out processing. It doesn’t take any money from him to get back home. It is a scam and could be the same guy that was contacting me. You never know. Just wish him well. If you ever meet him in the future and in person that is a different thing. I spend 7 months in the desert during the Persian Gulf War and didn’t need money for anything. The military takes care of its own.

  8. I met a guy on this dating site and two weeks into instant messaging he said he loved me. I told him I wanted to send a care package to him and he started telling me to send a phone clothes watches ect. He said he could not access his account he claims to be stationed in Syria but cannot provide an apo address in the states. I started doing my research and found out that there is no army base in Nevada where he claims to be stationed. People watch out for sgt bailey collins William. Every red flag is going up about him. He also wanted me to send money to him. Thank goodness I didn’t. Really broke my heart that someone could be so cruel as to use oir soldiers like that. Pathetic.

  9. Any one heard of Scott Alvin Newbury…he is scanner…claiming to be in Sudan…almost had me believing…

  10. Annie Velasco says:

    There are a few people working together to scam you:
    The so called Soldier – someone is impersonating CPT Michael Hannett, uses email address: and phone #: 1110440602. This # was used for text messaging purposes, I never spoke to him on the phone.
    He says there are a few diplomates assisting him so they contact you for money:
    Diplomat Maxwell Kwateng (stated he was from Holland) uses the email address: and phone #s: 267-396-1430 and 233279363491 when he would call me from Ghana. Supposedly he picked up a package from CPT Hannett then booked his flight to the USA to deliver the package to me. His first stop from Afghanistan was Ghana, then Belgium then the USA. This is believable but then the package gets caught up in Customs, again believable. I am asked to send money to help get the package released. I didn’t for weeks and then after much begging from CPT Hannett I helped thinking he had no one else to help and he would repay me. Yes I did get scammed after communicating with who I thought was a soldier deployed in Afghanistan for six months. I did send money and this is some of the banking information I was given. I am sharing it with you in case you see something like this and stop yourself before you actually do send the money. You might be told you will get contacted by the bank manager and to let him know you are investing in land in Ghana. Crazy but it is a long drawn out story that I got caught up in, it was so believable.



    IN FAVOR OF: (Beneficiary)

    ADDRESS : P.O. BOX CT 4047
    ACCOUNT NUMBER :1050190037772


    A so called Diplomat – Dennis M. – uses a phone # 32466308925, states he is in Belgium and travels to Switzerland, also used the phone # 01132466308925, uses the email address He was supposedly assisting CPT Hannett with items being sent to me through Belgium that got caught up with customs and fines were imposed to release the package so that he could deliver it to me personally. I was asked for money about $26,000 but I didn’t send anything. I actually had family helping me to find these scammers and we did on the Military Romance Scammers site. Use it if you think you might be getting caught up in something that is too good to be true.

    I am not a desperate women. I started out with what I thought was a military soldier pen pal and nothing more. I offered to send care packages but was told he couldn’t get mail. He was a special forces military police officer. Well, I thought all soldiers received mail one way or another so I should have known better. I am educated and ex military myself. I used so many different ways to question the guy and to try to get him to mess up. I even asked what dining facility his soldier ate at for his unit at the Army Base he was stationed at. It was one that I had done my own tour at and he gave me one that was believable and existed and pretty quickly during an IM. So he has help to research and provide quick answers to questions. It was really crazy. There were times he used terminology that I felt weird about but thought he might just be tired and shortening some words like you do when you text. I should have gone with my gut at that time. I didn’t so I will pay the price for years to come.

    Ladies and gentlemen, be cautious. If you can’t meet them in person then don’t continue with what you believe to be a relationship. Just tell them to contact you when they return from deployment. There are so many real people out there that you can meet in person so why not take your chance face to face.

    Good luck.

  11. I met a man who claims to be in Kabul Afghanistan name Roger Handson email and rog_handson1212@yahoo. Com he always came online at 2-3 am we talked for a few weeks and I was impressed then last night he started telling me he wanted me to do some email so he could come home. He knew I am a disabled single mom and stressed he was ashamed for asking me to do this because it would cost $800 for BTA I asked what BTA was as I was googling it myself. When I told him I was informed that bta is a scam he got very angry told me I didn’t trust him and that he had to go. I found his name in a scammer list and emailed it to him. I informed him how sad it is to not only seek out women like prey but to top it off he pretended to be in the army what a disgrace

  12. Addition to the add just placed. He is on Facebook.

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