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Internet Dating Scam: Fake Soldiers

I just came across a post on “A Soldier’s Perspective” discussing a rather disgusting and disturbing trend that has guys posing as soldiers on Internet dating sites. Here’s the quote from CJ’s:

The latest trend involves trolling internet dating sites and convincing women that they are honorable Soldiers who have fallen in love and would do anything to communicate with the object of their affection. But, because they are deployed to Afghanistan or Iraq, they need you to sign up for an expensive telecommunications service like “Military TELEX” in order to make that happen. They profess unending love as their motivator and, unfortunately, many women have fallen for it.

The BIG red flag here is that the guy is asking for money. NEVER fall for that con.

If you come across anyone on a dating site who is asking you for money, regardless of the reason; block them immediately from further contact and then report them to the internet dating service.

You can also check out who is really behind their email address…

AND / or their telephone number…

To read specific details about about one incident, read CJ’s post “The New Military Dating Scam“.

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  1. Margaret Rodgers says:

    Ok Gay now your learning the in’s & out’s of their game. I ALWAYS assume they are a scammer, before ever giving them credit for being a honest person. He would have to prove it to me. Chances are 99 percent nil they are not honest. I only met one soldier out of over 300 the past 4 years that was real. Not a scammer but was a real exhibitionist pervert !! I no longer look for the love of my life online. First, it is too dangerous. I have concluded that real men arn’t looking for it online either.

    • MSG Robert McLaughlin says:

      Actually plenty of folks do look for love online. I did. The best part about connecting online is that you remove the physical attraction (i.e. beer goggles), you remove the worry that you are dressed okay or your hair looks okay, you remove the concern about did I take her to a good restaurant, does she like the food, and all that. You end up with only one thing with which to connect — the human mind.

      I have met some fantastic people online I may not have even given the time of day to in person. Age, race, religion, height, you name it, it is all removed from the equation. Sure you want to know that about the other person, as they do about you (and in time you better meet lest your dreamy thoughts exceed anyone’s capabilities). But yes, meeting online happens, and for the good. And if the person is boring online, then their persona is non-existent, and you have saved yourself lot of hassle, and still retain your relative anonimity.

      Hi everyone! I have been away from the site but wanted to check in and say hi. I still have folks asking me about military dating, and as usual the conmen have no remorse and are as brazen as ever. They are fishing for the big money and have all the time in the world.

      One little hint for those of you who may talk to a person you met again… I used to write down names of people I talk with online and also things like birthdates or kid’s names or stuff that I would like to remember. Or what city you are in. Saves me looking dumb. Go ahead and do that and see if the stories you get match over time. It’s an investment to have a long running story, they scammers will find easier bait.

      Also when they send you a picture upload it to to see if it is real or did they steal it off of the Internet.

      Good luck out there!

  2. Margaret Rodgers says:

    Mel – actually it doesn’t matter whether Daniel, Danny, or Horatio…..they use fake names, and change it with each person they chat with most of the time. The same person can be chatting with me using one name, and chatting with you using some other name.

  3. Margaret Rodgers says:

    To Lori – I posted to you on Dec.16, 2014 that to my knowledge we had no troops in Somalia. I Learned today we have or had some around 200 units in Somalia but not sure if they are still there. Operation was called “Operations Restore Hope & United Shield. Can’t say the person you chatted with was one of them or not. This was on my News Feed today in Facebook. My hunch is still you have a scammer but I needed to let you know this info. Some of the scammers really keep up on where troops are.

  4. Margaret Rodgers says:

    To Bekka – there is a bright side to your story believe it or not. First most of us on this website at one time or another have felt what your feeling, including myself. Second, you found out the truth. Third, your now much wiser. I know it hurts. One reason I study them, to try and help others with what I have learned from my own experiences. It took me six months to remove the picture of a soldier that a scammer had sent me he was pretending to be from my desk. This was almost 4 years ago and it still hurts. So I know what your going through. Your best to realize your not alone and I bet it won’t happen to you again.

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