I just came across a post on “A Soldier’s Perspective” discussing a rather disgusting and disturbing trend that has guys posing as soldiers on Internet dating sites. Here’s the quote from CJ’s:
The latest trend involves trolling internet dating sites and convincing women that they are honorable Soldiers who have fallen in love and would do anything to communicate with the object of their affection. But, because they are deployed to Afghanistan or Iraq, they need you to sign up for an expensive telecommunications service like “Military TELEX” in order to make that happen. They profess unending love as their motivator and, unfortunately, many women have fallen for it.
The BIG red flag here is that the guy is asking for money. NEVER fall for that con.
If you come across anyone on a dating site who is asking you for money, regardless of the reason; block them immediately from further contact and then report them to the internet dating service.
You can also check out who is really behind their email address…
AND / or their telephone number…
To read specific details about about one incident, read CJ’s post “The New Military Dating Scam”.
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He claims to be a sgt in afganistan, has a son mom walked away, getting ready to retire and wants to marry, always needs funds for military retirement papers to get finished processing and military seals to be place on sheets i keep tell him i think scam. chatting for three months, on yahoo he has rocketmail.com
I got scamed by a man posing as a military solider in Afghanastan and it led me to being arrested the scamers used me as a mule to do there dirty woek and I also was a victom along with the man I met so I say be careful with James Brs, Darren Smith, and he has used a lot of other names I have never been in trouble in my life I am a very good lady and want to help other victoms now to stay away from these crazy scamers because they don’t feel a thing they are numb to feelings or heart. I sent over $8,000 to this soidier that I thought was really coming to me for tickets over weight baggage and he also scamed my God daughter for an addtional $2,000 for his expenses we felt sorry for him and now I say he needs to be put in prison, but instead they arrested me a US citizen for being a victum of the whole scam. I watched the Ricki Lake show today 1-25-2013 and I have written her an email asking to come on her show and talk about this terrible scaming that happened to me I now have no money, have been homeless, no car and have gone there crisis counseling and still am facing charges for them what they did not what I did , it’s just not right someone needs to lock these people up and throw away the key. I now am trying to turn my life around by going back to school to work with cyper crimes and I know I will be able to help other victoms both men and women. I need all your love and prayers in hopes that the jury and Judge will recognize this as a great big scam because I wanted to do was help this little elderly gentlemen and it landed me in jail, I am now out on bond because while I was in jail I had a sever heart attack because of the stress and being so afraid of everything that I almost died. I am a disabled lady and have worked all my life as a nurse aide and now am retired and hurting very nuch in my heart over this I don’t have as much as a parking ticket and then this happened and I am still wondering what in the world happened to me. I would love to have your love and support you can email me at bettypaz267@yahoo.com please I would love to talk to you all and I have asked both Ricki Lake and Ellen to come on their shows and talk, so pray about this for me, I need your love and prayers, thank you Betty Paz and one more thing I would love to add I think it is terriable they pose as our military serving and fighting for our wonderful nation I am ashamed they did this to a military soilders picture May God Forgive them and again please keep me in your Prayers. Thank You again Betty Paz
TO LILLIAN; HERE IS SOME INSIGHT. First don’t be intimidated. Don’t be timid. They will pick up on that and use it. Ask questions. If they have nothing to hide they will be happy to give you the info you ask for. By all means ask for his .Mil email address and accept nothing but .mil on the end, nothing else !! No dot com or dot anything, just .mil. It is not secret. On the fb account – either he got the info he wanted off of your account and possibly others and deleted it himself, or someone complained about him to fb and his account was deleted by them. Don’t look for it to re – appear. I googled what did Defelice mean in my browser and it is a family name, origin spanish or italian, i couldn’t be sure of which. Now strange he only chats from 1:30 to 2:00pm exactly each day. except scammers have time lines. They can have up to 100 on their list each day to contact and work. Yes work, remember its just a job for them. They try to get you on cam as they record the image and use it for their other scams. Yes some pretend to be women and vice versa. If your phone number is listed, they can get your address and believe me you don’t want them to have that. You could be in real danger, seriously. Two weeks is not enough time for him to implement whatever he has planned to ask of you, but he will. Give him enough rope, he’ll hang himself.
Lilian,
Larry’s email does not end in .mil! Get the military address to verify!
Daughter that died? Very easy to verify. Get her name, county, and date of death. Asking how old she was and how she died is normal, you are not intruding.
11 years in the Army? What’s his rank? MOS? DOR? Where did he do Basic? AIT? Last duty station? ASK!
His FB was removed because another scammer reported him I betcha!
He is busy after 2pm at work? What time zone are you in? Check what time it is in Afghanistan, sounds to me like he gets busy at 11pm or 2am? Really?
DO NOT TAKE ONE MORE STEP without verifying his .mil address! (Mine is my first name, a period, then my last name, then @us.army.mil, as should be his!!!!
Hey Ladies,
This Desmond B. Cross is talking to me now. He says he loves me and everything about me. He says he is a soldier in Kabul Afghanistan. I have given him quite a ride today. I have a friend who is in the military and gave me 5 questions to ask him in order to determine if he is legit. He did not answer any of them but one and his response to that one was wrong. Here are the questions you need to ask them to determine if they are truly a serviceman. 1.) Rank, 2.) What Unit are they in, 3.) What is his MOS, 4.) Where did he do his BCT (basic training) 5.) What is his AKO e-mail address. If they can answer these five question, then they are probably legit. I am taking this guy for a ride on my roller coaster. He told me he had $2 million dollars in an account and could not access it until he was back in the states. I am about to ask him to give me the money to pay off my house so that I can be with him when he comes home from Afghanistan. We will see if he throws me to the curb or not. Turn the tables on these guys and watch them run. I expect he will stop talking to me really shortly. This is my first encounter with a scam er and I am gonna make him wish he had never met me.
EVERYONE : ALERT !! SCAMMERS COMING ON STRONG.
I’ve had 5 of them hit me within last 5 days. It’s been quiet for me for several months and now wammo !! Had one last week approach me on Facebook and again today. I tell them I only have school friends and family on Facebook, which is true, and refer them to my yahoo email which is where I like to keep their chats . NEVER BEFRIEND ON FACEBOOK !!!! They only go there to get your friends and families names for future victims. The one that contacted me on fb today had only opened his account 55 mins prior to contacting me. That my friends is a RED FLAG
Carol – why after 4yrs you know so little. Ask the name of the Company he works for and if he gives you a name, google it. Try and get info you can verify. Seems strange for being involved for 4 yrs.
Can you please check out SSGT.Bryan Jameson
and this one {Terry Mcdonald} who is not in the military,but I have been chatting with him for 4 yrs. now. He says he is in London working.
Thanks!
This gentleman I met is supposedly Larry Scott his email address is larry.scott191@yahoo.com. He approached me on FB and said he was looking for single woman and ran across my information and said I looked interesting. So we talked on FB he said he was new to FB and is looking to start a relationship with someone. Told me he has never been married but had a daughter who died. I felt uncomfortable to ask how. Anyway he says he’s in Afghanistan and hes been in the military for 11 years. He sent me a lengthy email about himself as well as I did also. For some reason his FB got removed and he replied how upset he was about that and said that FB said his information would upload shortley again, It has not. He only had 3 pics and they were one of a man in a uniform with a German shepard taking a pic and he had an MP on his arm for military police but on his name tag on uniform it said Defelice. I confronted him of that and he said that was his nickname, LIE.. have not verified that… but he has suddenly been so affectionate towards me in the yahoo messenger and we talk everyday from 1:30 to about 2:00 p.m. after that he says hes pretty busy at work. He ask me for my phone number so he says he can hear my sweet voice. Imagine that.. Well he has told me he loves me sevaral times and says I am the woman for him. He says he is looking for his soul mate and wants to work towards marriage. He also asked me the other day if I had a camera to talk on line which I do, but we did not go any further because I was at the gym. But anyway I have given him my number and he said since he is on night duty he will call me when he gets home he promises me that he said he cant wait to talk to me. So I will keep you all updated and no he has not asked for any money yet but it’s only been 2 weeks. If you all recognize any of this information please let me know.
seems to me Facebook has become Facecrooks
Thanks for warni9ngs about these false insects
This is 2 names to watch out for possing as soliders(which makes me mad). Dustin Dudley 2nd fb is dusty dudley. the next is Matt Knapp. There storys both are the same and they say they are both stationed at Camp Leatherneck. Luck for me I have friends and family in the military. Theirs started off they couldnt do video chat cause they was in red zone..lol then next day said he figured out how we could chat (since i told him i wanted to see a real face behind the typing). It was a form to fill out so we could have access to phone chats.. adm. one time fee of @275 .. email was from military_defense@usa.com.. Not … When I told him no he doesnt talk anymore. but they both are still active on facebook.and added new accounts.. Be careful…..It truely saddens me that our military is fighting for our freedom and scum like this use their photos and names to do such horrible things.
TO SONIA AND OTHERS AS WELL; They like to get you to make friends with them on facebook because they then get access to your friends already on there and your family if possible. They will add them to their victim list and distribute it to the scamming syndicate. You should never add friends ON FACEBOOK unless you know who they are.
ELIZABETH; The name Desmond is more popular and more often used by Black people, so go figure. At least in the States it is.
sonia
most likely a scammer give it time he will, most of them are.i had one in uniform and his name was boyen richard, becareful cuz the do switsh pics.
Look Girls !!!
scammer are everywhere ! not only those ! endless !
Need your eyes open and look at them carefully . you will know who you are talking to
My Soldier found me on fb said he was looking for a old friend and happen to come across my profile he says he is in afghanistan until the end of January he has giving me a lot of photos of him in army uniforms and on each of his uniforms his name is on the right front i dont know if he is for real or a scammer he hasnt asked me for money or too send him anything like that but some times he spells words wrong i have been chatting too him since oct 2011 his name is suppose too sg steve sparks so if any one has any information please share it with me God Bless
Lucy, thank you very much. This was an account desmond_bruce17@yahoo.com.
I can’t believe Desmond is a popular name????
ok ladies i met a guy name paul baldwin on face book. he seemed nice, we chatted for months ,he even asked me to go to boston for two days, i didnt go. he said he was married and wanted a divorce, assked for 1000.00 dollars . dont worry i didnt send money, but becareful ladies
FOR EVERYONE; AVOID PERSON USING EMAIL ID OF TIMMY ALEX 57@YAHOO.COM. ALL INFORMATION COMING FROM HIM POINTED TO A SCAMMER.
Elizabeth,
The e-mail that Desmond B. Cross used was desmond.cross1@yahoo.com. He admitted that he felt more comfortable on yahoo messenger than on Facebook. He didn’t ask for money but was leading up to it….said he got paid $26,500 from the Army and had an allowance account which he was not able to touch until he was back in the states (yeah right)! When I told him I did’nt love him he got very angry, made some comments and told me I was free to go (go figure, he never had me to begin with). I would love to see these scammers end up in jail for 1) stealing American soldiers’ identities and 2) scamming some women out of money.
YES YES YES: Finally Dutch television aired the Internet Dating Scam!!!
Lucy,
So was this Desmond B. using the email address of desmondbruce17@yahoo.com? Just curious.
Thanks
My “soldier” is Cpt Brian C. Ferguson stationed in Afghanistan. I met him on a Jewish dating site, Jdate. I got wise with the signs…improper english, a phone company called “Telsat” asking for $980 to be able to communicate with my soldier…Thankfully, I did not pay and said it was too much. Then all of a sudden, my soldier tells me to write back Telsat and tell them I can not afford that amount. Miraculously, they lowered the amount to between $490-$700. WTF?? Anyways, he too is a single dad, he caught his wife in bed with his best friend. His mom in the UK is taking care of his 6 year old son, Richard.
Ladies, my heart is hurting, but not as badly because I started doing research and found you all…THANK YOU.
If you would like to see pictures of my handsome soldier, let me know. Hoping to help others avoid the pain and financial strain!
contact@dazzlemedesigns.com
Thank you so much for providing this information.i meet the guy in badoo site he introduce me his name as captain munguia fredrick he always write me by mails such a very empressive words that every woman will fall in love his sound like a very good manner guy.every words he says his mail its about full of love.this january 5 he ask me looking forward to talk not just only by texting.he told that i should cummunicate the mail he send (usarmycareunit@hotmail.com) but i surprised they ask me money for so called telexbase airtime call.i replied asking back why should i pay that call.alot of explaination said afghanistan is very restricted and for security reason but i have doubt i’ve been search today about his name and i found out his fake.thanks god imnot become his victim.
Shirley
Online Profiles: 1+
Location: (Greater Accra) Ghana
His “name” is Edwin Brown
according to spokeo
To Heather: Some good insight. Thank you.