Well, it’s been 3 years now, and I am still waiting. We rarely have sex, and when we do, it always seems like a chore to him. I feel painfully lonely, and touch deprived. I get a peck on the lips when he goes to work, but that’s about it. I am starting to feel very unattractive and I am ready to just give up. I’ve talked to him several times about my need for intimacy, and he just gets mad and says that I should be initiating sex. When I do, he will do the bare minimum, and he seems like he can’t wait until his “work” is over. Per his request we have to do it in the dark, and there is very little foreplay, and no talking, or noise of any kind. He will not ever try anything new, and he doesn’t shave before, so his four day growth is painful to me, and he knows it, but he doesn’t care.

When we are in public, he will not touch me. He walks so fast that I can’t keep up with him, and if we’re in a restaurant, he will rarely make eye contact, in fact, he doesn’t notice when I try a new hair style, or outfit. It’s like living with a room mate. I am a very sensual person, and I am very willing to do anything that he would desire, but he seems to have no interest. I don’t know how long I can deny my needs. I’ve never been unfaithful, not that I think he would even care. At least he wouldn’t have to touch me. The thing is, I’m actually considered to be very attractive by other men. I still get hit on whenever I go out alone, or with friends. When I ask him if he is happy with our sex life, he gets angry.

I just want a man who doesn’t make me beg for crumbs of attention. Shouldn’t that just come naturally if he is attractive to me?

Dying for his touch.