Here’s a question posed to Coco at Match.com.

Dear Coco,

End of my Rope

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Jay took issue with the BeautifulPeople debacle and I can’t blame him.

That is just wrong. . . Fat people need dates too. I did a quick search for fat people dating and sure enough there are sites out there. I did get a chuckle at one Fat site, if you scroll down to the bottom there was an ad to sign up and get paid to lose weight. LMAO !!

J

Jay,

You’re absolutely right, there are sites for big beautiful men and women (BBW & BHM)… sites that DON’T post the Weight Watchers and eDiet banners all over the place.

There are 2 listed in my BBW/BHM section.

There’s also Maureen and John’s site for big beautiful people, (I’ve met them, they’re a great couple who actually met online through a dating site and then decided to start their own.

Neither one of them are skinny-minnies and THEY found love online.

You can too… just sign up for a free membership at one or more of the sites listed and put yourself out there!

Included below is a love story that Cindy recently sent to me and to the left is a picture of she and Mike on their 2nd date taken in December 1997.

About the picture, Cindy says “This was the first largemouth bass I ever caught…” but it looks like she caught something MUCH better that day!

In September 1997 I was playing around on the internet and came across Matchmaker. Thinking it was a cool site, I thought it would be an easy way to meet men.

Earlier that year I had left a 20 year marriage and was really interested in finding out what men were all about.

I completed their questionnaire and the last question: “Why did you sign up?“

I answered “Just Curious.”

Based on my answers I was matched up to several different men. I exchanged emails and phone calls with quite a few guys. I even met a few of them in person – though I was extremely cautious and had a few set rules I followed.

One of my top matches was Mike. I read his answers several times and laughed each time I read it. I kept debating – should I email this guy or not. Finally I decided to go ahead and email him: BEST choice I ever made. As I emailed him on the last day of his subscription to Matchmaker and he wasn’t planning on resigning.

We began emailing each other daily. I loved his sense of humor! He made me laugh like I hadn’t in ages. After about a month of emailing we decided to talk on the phone.

You see Mike was also being cautious – as he states “There’s a lot of crazy women out there too!“.

Our first phone conversation was Eight hours!!! Mike had strep-throat at the time and I’m sure we didn’t help it heal any faster. J The next night we talked 6 hours. The third night we talked 4 hours and the fourth night we talked for 6 hours again.

It was at that time, that I told Mike, I couldn’t afford the phone bill! (Remember – we didn’t have the luxury of cell phones or google talk at the time.) Mike continued to call me every single day. His phone bill was averaging over $300. a month!

We spoke on the phone for about a month before we met in person. He lived 200 miles from me, so we decided to meet in the middle – in the city of Victorville.

We met for breakfast and then played miniature golf. We spent hours just talking in his truck. Before we parted he picked me a red rose. He made me feel like Cinderella at the ball.

On our second date we went fishing and I introduced him to my best friend. I caught my first largemouth bass.

We dated for a couple of years before I moved in with him.

We were married on May 10, 2003.

He is truly my soul-mate. I thank God for him every day.

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Tip: If you’ve ever been in love with a man who made you so unsure of your relationship that you slowly went out of your mind, odds are the two of you weren’t astrologically compatible.

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It also shows if you can have easy, smooth progress as a couple, or if no matter what you do you’ll end up feeling insecure and anxious all the time…

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I was talking to a client of mine the other day and he had an amazing story that I thought you’d appreciate…

Being a man (yes, I talk to men, too!), he usually only consults me about business and has never let me look at his girlfriend’s chart despite the fact that the topic of love and relationships is my specialty.

I’ve begged him to get me her birth information, but he’s always been strangely mum on the topic.

That is until the other day.

It seems they’d broken up – again.

Even though, after two years and two big breakups, she’d finally moved in with him.

Only to call the relationship quits a handful of months later.

Now – if he weren’t one of the smartest men I’ve ever met (and most successful), and if she weren’t one of the nicest women (and most beautiful), this story wouldn’t be such a big deal.

I mean, couples break up and get back together, and break up again all the time.

Right?

But this was an amazing couple – so playful together, so affectionate, so funny – always laughing and enjoying themselves.

He’d helped her with her business, and she’d helped him to transform his relationships with his family.

They were such great people apart, and seemingly so much better together, that it just didn’t make any sense that they wouldn’t be blissfully happy all the time and figure out how to get both of their needs consistently met.

So what was the deal?

I had to know – so I insisted he get me her details and he did – and there it was…

Their compatibility was just about perfect, as anyone would guess.

Except for one little problem…

They have a connection between their Moon constellations called, “misfortune.”

When two people have this combination, it makes it so that their feeling of closeness and harmony is always “herky- jerky.”

One minute everything is fine and they are happy, and the next it’s as though they’ve stepped on a “love landmine” and the relationship itself blows apart.

When a conflict of any kind arises, instead of being able to address the issue at hand, the couple begins to feel so insecure with one another that the entire relationship itself is called into question.

And this is exactly what he described.

They’d be going along just fine, and then it would be as if they’d hit a snag.

Neither of them would even know who’d said or done what – all they’d know is that they suddenly didn’t feel so fine.

And, despite knowing better, they couldn’t seem to contain themselves and hold onto the good feelings they normally had for one another, or behave lovingly toward each other.

Before they knew it, they’d break up and separate, only to wonder what the hell had happened…

When I explained this crazy, misery inducing dynamic to my client, he said, “I feel like I just went to the doctor with a complaint and he ran some tests and said, ‘Yeah, that’s what’s going on with you all right.’”

Which is so wild because that’s exactly what I say – running the compatibility between you and a man is like running a panel of lab tests on your relationship.

Things might “seem” fine, but upon further inquiry, “weak links” that threaten the very vitality of your relationship, and the very health of your happiness as a couple can be uncovered.

Now, you’d think that a connection called, “misfortune” between two people would cause misfortunes to occur in their lives.

Sometimes it does.

Interestingly, Bill and Hillary Clinton have this connection!

And though it can certainly be said that they’ve been an amazing couple of incredible achievement and longevity – they’ve sure had their share of drama…

If you feel like you’re in a relationship with too much drama, why not find out if your compatibility is to blame?

“The Right Man Report” includes this technique that reveals if you and a man have

“misfortune” together or not, as well as fourteen other connections that can make or break even the best of couplings.

Now, it’s not always a total “deal breaker” if you do – it can be enormously helpful just to know what’s at the root of your romantic roller coaster.

There are other combinations that can be every bit as challenging and difficult – and often couples will have not just one big frustration between them, but several…

And “The Right Man Report” reveals it all – and what to do to make the best of things if you STILL want to stay together.

Sign up for my free love and astrology Newsletter, and check out your Right Man Report.

And may God and his planets and stars shower you with love!

Carol Allen