David DeAngelo

Is Honesty the Best Approach to Women?

>>> SUCCESS Story

Hey Dave,

Just wanted to drop you a line on how my personal story has been going since I started doing things “your way”. I have checked every “girl strategy” out there, you know the ones, and have to say that your system is the most simple, and most effective one out there. Your system gives men the start, and allows them to put their own personal touches on it. Then, after some success, (and some failures, of course, he he) we can come back and get even more out of it. Awesome, man.

I’m 27, and have tried your way starting 2 years ago. It took me a long time to get “it”, but the journey has been incredible. My friends can’t believe the change in me, and I am now helping friends who I once thought were so much better than me. My relationships with women are so much more fulfilling now than they ever were when I was just trying to “get laid”.

I think the one fundamental issue you push, which is so overlooked, is the idea that a man can be absolutely honest, know what he wants, and get it. There are no tricks here, this is about being absolutely true to yourself. That is what attracts women to us, our unfaltering honesty, even when we are afraid that that honesty will push them away. The exact opposite is true.

Buying dinner, flowers, kissing ass, all of that crap is, at its core element, dishonest. Being cocky and funny, being true to yourself, and acting like a man, is, at core element, totally honest. I think women really appreciate that, and I think it turns them on in a way that even they don’t understand. I am really starting to get this, and it gets better every day.

Please put out more products, we want them, and have no problem paying a reasonable price for this information. My several different girl “friends” each hotter than the next, appreciate this as well. My life has never been so good. Thanks for making it that way, I owe you way more than the price of your products, of which I have purchased all. God bless you man, you rock.

Your friend, M

>>>David’s COMMENTS:

Yea, it really is amazing that there is a way to have success with women… while still being an honest, straight-shooting guy.

Whodathunkit, huh?

A few more comments…

Yes, I know how frustrating it is to go searching for good information on how to be more successful with women and dating… only to find half-baked ideas from people who have no clue what they’re doing.

And you’re observation that buying women gifts, food, and flower is, at its core, DISHONEST is pretty interesting, too.

Most of the guys who look at my stuff and say “I don’t like your ideas because I don’t like to MANIPULATE women” will turn right around and have no problem buying a woman dinner in hopes that she’ll sleep with them.

Go figure.

Well congrats on sticking with it and getting this part of your life handled. It feels good, and I have a lot of respect for guys who take the initiative to go DO SOMETHING.

Thanks for your email.

Do Women Call You Back?

Here’s this weeks question for David DeAngelo and his answer…

Dave:

I’m sure there are a lot of guys out there that would like your input on this question.

There is something that I haven’t seen addressed in your mailbag or your e-book and that is what to do when the woman you’ve have e-mailed or called didn’t reply to the e-mail or phone call and you see them again. Two personal examples:

Example one:

I meet this girl at my job. Start doing C&F routine on her: “Why do you look so serious, are you trying to scare people away. I know inside of you there’s a nice girl that’s just dying to come out.” She laughs and I say “That’s more like it, now you don’t look so scary.” To make a long story short I ask this girl Friday to give me her phone number so that we can get together the next day. She gave me her number and I called, left a message on her voice mail and she never got back to me. Saw her the following Monday (she sits right across from me) and she didn’t say anything. No reason why she didn’t call me back. Nothing. I ended not talking to her. I thought that if I asked her about why she flaked she would’ve given me a lame excuse anyway. I haven’t been giving her too much attention since.

Example two:

I go to this club on a regular basis. I saw this one girl and started dancing with her. Did some C&F routine like “Don’t get too close”, “I don’t even know you that well”. She was enjoying it. I asked her for her number before I left (she didn’t have e-mail). Found out after I called the number that she gave me a wrong number. I saw her two weeks afterwards in the same club and just ignored her.

Now for my question. What should I do when I come across situations like these again? Act like it never happened and ignore them or call them on their bullshit. Sometimes I think women flake as a test to see what the men are going to do if they happen to come across them again. I know some guys will just tell them off? What have you done in these situations?

RF NYC

>>>MY COMMENTS:

First, thanks for this question. I have had this situation happen to me personally many, many times, and I’m glad you asked.

One of the things I’ve talked about before is how once a person believes something to be “true” or believes that they understand how something works, that they tend to make other information or new things that they learn, fit that older model, rather than being open to change.

For instance, people who become part of a cult will tend to take the advice from others, evidence that they’re not doing the right thing etc. to help convince them that they ARE doing the right thing.

The reason that I bring this up is because it sounds to me like you’re looking for an answer to how to solve a problem that you should actually try to PREVENT in the first place.

I’m going to talk about how to prevent this problem first, then tell you a few things you can do when you run into it again in the future as well.

Here are two things to keep in mind:

1) Women give out their numbers to guys A LOT (on average). A woman can have all kinds of reasons for giving out her number. She might like the attention, or it might even be just to get rid of a guy.

2) Women expect men to call THEM. And if a man doesn’t reach them when he calls, a woman expects the man to TRY AGAIN. (In the book “The Rules” – the book for women about how to get a man to marry you – the authors tell women not to call men and rarely return a man’s call, because it makes him think about you and want you more).

If I were you, I’d start thinking about two approaches:

1) Figure out how to make it so that women WANT to give you their REAL number and make them WANT to call you back based on the first meeting.

2) If you got a number instead of email, call her at least 3 or 4 times before you give up.

To figure out how to make women WANT to call you back, you might have to work on improving your humor, your personality, your appearance, or whatever. In short, you need to learn how to make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you when you first meet her. If you don’t, she’s not likely to call you back.

Don’t go too overboard on this one because a lot of this issue is just the fact that women don’t return calls as often as men do… but think it through.

And if you need to learn more about how to trigger this response called ATTRACTION in women, then you should probably take a minute and read through THIS before you read any further.

There are probably a few things you’re doing that make women feel a little strange at first (this is just a guess, as most guys have things they could improve).

Maybe you’re acting a little too nervous.

Maybe you’re acting too “nice” or like you’re “awed” by women.

Maybe you’re not making eye contact directly, and you’re giving off a “not-very-confident” vibe.

Think about it.

But the best thing you can do is to just call a woman on the phone 3 or 4 times before you give up! (That is, when a woman gives you her REAL number).

Women expect men to keep trying, so they just don’t call back.

Remember, SHE’S THE WOMAN. She’s the one who’s getting approached by interested guys, and who probably sees you as “just another guy” calling her.

You must be persistent, keep it cool and low- key, and keep calling until you reach her.

If a woman gives you a fake number, it just means that she wanted to get rid of you…

You need to think about how the interaction went, and TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for the behavior and communication that made her want to give you a fake number.

Again, think about it and make improvements.

And to answer your question directly of “What do I do if I see her again afterwards”, I’d say that it all depends.

If you would consider going out with a woman who has the ethical standard of giving out fake numbers, then I’d say you might want to reconsider your choice of women…

And if you would like to talk to a woman who didn’t call you back (maybe you left her a message, etc.), then I’d come up with something funny. Cocky & Funny, that is.

Walk over and make fun of her because it’s obvious that she didn’t have enough money to pay her phone bill and when she tried to call you back she found that her phone was disconnected but that it’s nothing to be ashamed of and you’ll take pity on her and buy her some ramen noodle soup while she’s broke and hungry.

Just make sure you’re lighthearted about it, and you communicate that you could really care less that she didn’t call you back… but that you’re going to take the opportunity to bust on her because she’s in your presence.

In the seminars that I teach, we do some exercises around body language and other non- verbal communication.

Your body language says SOOOOO MUCH about you, and women use body language to decide many, many things about you.

If your body language and communications aren’t working together to create ATTRACTION, then you’re going to get a lot more fake numbers and a lot fewer calls back from women.

…And if you’re reading this right now and you’d like to be learning how to read SUBTLE BODY LANGUAGE and how to make women feel the magical emotion called SEXUAL ATTRACTION for you by communicating with them in ways that other men don’t, then I HIGHLY recommend that you check out my “Body Language For Success With Women And Dating” DVD/CD program.

This is the first program of its kind, and it will TRANSFORM your understanding of how to use your body language and voice tone to attract women.

And if you’re ready for an IN-DEPTH education on everything from overcoming fear and approaching women… to getting numbers and dates… and taking things to a “physical level”, then you MUST get your hands on a copy of my Advanced Dating Techniques program.

It’s literally jam packed with over 12 full hours of digitally recorded concepts, strategies, and specific techniques to DOUBLE YOUR DATING… and more.

I get emails all the time from guys who are listening to the program two, three, and even five or MORE times because there’s just so much information packed into it. You’ll not only hear me teaching my personal techniques and secrets, but you’ll also hear me interviewing several of my friends who are some of the best in the world with women… and getting them to reveal THEIR secrets as well.

I’ll talk to you soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

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How To Act When A Woman Likes You

***QUESTION FROM A READER***

Dave,

I’ve become a very generous guy lately. To all my male friends, I’m giving them the gift of your newsletter. To all my females, I’m giving the gift of missing me.

I’m a recovering wuss. I took a few months off of women and worked on my inner game, with great results. I’ve started talking to new women again, along with old girlfriends. I find that when the c/f (Cocky & Funny) starts rolling, or even just my newfound confidence, I often get a lot of compliments. What’s the best way to deal with a girl coming out and saying “oh, you’re so cute/funny/etc…”? Should I ignore it and keep the c/f going? Should I address it in a cocky way? I’m assuming that graciously accepting the compliment is never the right answer…

What would you say to a girl who compliments you directly? (other than “Do you do third input?”) What would your tone/body language/eye contact be like?

-J.M.
>From new hampshire, where men are men, women are few, and sheep are nervous.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

You know, this really is a great question.

One of the most important things to understand as a man is what to do when things are WORKING… so you don’t SCREW IT UP!

If you use the materials that you’re learning from me, you will start to have a magical thing happen more and more often… women will start to do and say things that clearly indicate that they LIKE you.

Sometimes it will be a touch, sometimes a compliment, and sometimes a smile. But these things WILL happen more and more as you get better and better.

I always laugh to myself when I bust a woman’s chops really hard, and she laughs and says “You’re so funny!” or “You really are good!” etc.

I still shake my head and wonder why the hell it took me so long to figure this stuff out.

But I digress… you know, while I’m digressing, what’s with you ending your email with:

“>From new hampshire, where men are men, women are few, and sheep are nervous.”

…?!

This is probably the third or fourth time that I’ve seen this at the end of an email.

Tell me the truth… do chicks dig this?

You’re making me nervous, man. Keep the sheep talk on the DL, OK?

Uncool.

Now, when a woman does something that signals “I like you”, it is VITALLY important that you:

1) Know how to recognize it

2) DON’T do what MOST guys do

3) DO the right thing, and AMPLIFY it

So how can you tell if a woman is doing something that says “I like you”?

Well, it’s VERY important to remember that women are far more “subtle” than men (most of the time, that is).

If a man is interested in a woman, you can see it all over his face. It’s usually very obvious.

But women are different.

Women do SMALL things.

A little touch. A sly smile. Sometimes a comment like “You’re so cute” (as in your example above).

But then IT’S GONE.

Women always seem to act like they’re not quite sure.

They don’t send consistent signals that most men can “read”.

And when they DO send signals that are easy to see, most guys respond in a way that makes those signals stop…which makes things even MORE confusing.

Again, women aren’t as CONSISTENT as men.

A woman can seem like she’s interested one minute, then stand-offish the next.

So rule #1 is:

JUST BECAUSE SHE’S DOING SOMETHING THAT SAYS “I LIKE YOU”, DON’T THINK THAT IT MEANS “I LIKE YOU NO MATTER WHAT”.

Much better to interpret subtle “I like you” cues as “I like you for a second, but if you start acting like a Wuss Bag or Dumb Ass, it will all be over in an instant”.

Unfortunately for most guys, they take “I like you” signals to mean “You’ve won my approval, now you can do whatever you want”.

And what do they do? Of course…

They turn into dorks, say or do a few stupid things, and destroy it all.

Oh, how many times I’ve watched guys (myself included) screw up perfectly good situations because they just didn’t get this concept.

Let me give you an example.

Let’s say that you’re out with a woman, and you’ve been teasing her, and she smiles and says “I like you”.

A typical “male” response is for a guy to think to himself “OK, I’m in… she digs me” and to get that rush in the head and chest.

Next thing you know, he’s acting different.

He’s talking about different things.

He’s giving compliments.

He’s being “nicer”.

And what’s the woman thinking while this is all going on? Of course… she’s thinking “Uh oh, his cool, calm, interesting personality was just a cover for the secret inner-Wuss that was hiding out, waiting for a little bit of approval from me… AHHHHHH!”

Women KNOW that they’re in control of the situation. Or at least MOST of the time they are… and they THINK that they are even during the times when they’re not.

They’re constantly using different kinds of communication to test and “feel out” the situation.

Remember, MOST of the time when you’re saying something that you think is nice, charming, and original, it’s something that a woman has heard about 47 times that week from other guys.

Us guys act VERY predictably most of the time.

And women know how to tell if you’re just another loser who’s pretending to be cool… who will turn into an average Wuss at the first sign of attraction from a cute woman.

Think about what I just said.

This is hard for a lot of guys to swallow… but it’s the reality of the situation.

There’s something that women call “Sexual Tension”. It’s also known as “Chemistry” or “Attraction” as well. But only WOMEN know it this way.

When you tease a woman, make her laugh, play hard to get with her, act unpredictably, etc. in the right way, you will create this tension. This is what usually leads to a woman saying something like “You’re cute” or “I like you”.

It’s the TENSION that makes her FEEL it and SAY it.

THE TENSION!

In these very special moments, you need to turn the tension UP. Dial it up. AMPLIFY it.

Don’t diffuse it all by saying “You’re cute yourself” or “I like you, too”. Or by smiling like a jackass wussy dork who has just seen his first rainbow.

This kind of thing RELEASES the tension, and it usually takes that wonderful electric attraction feeling that the woman is feeling and INSTANTLY kills it.

Does this make logical sense?

Hell no.

But it’s what happens.

OK, so let’s talk about the RIGHT way to handle this type of situation.

Remember when I said that it’s the TENSION that makes a woman feel the feelings and make the comments?

And that you need to AMPLIFY it when you’re getting a positive response?

Nice.

Once upon a time, there was a scene in a movie that illustrated this concept PERFECTLY.

In fact, it might be the all-time greatest example of this principle that has ever been recorded on film.

Remember the end of “The Empire Strikes Back” when they were about to put Han Solo into the deep freeze?

Remember when Leia said “I love you”…?

Remember what Han said?

Right, he said… “I know”.

Perfect.

All of the sexual tension that built up in Star Wars and Empire culminated in Leia confessing her love.

And Han says “I know”.

Awesome!

Imagine being Leia. What could be going through her mind at this point?

An answer like this isn’t easy to understand. It has all kinds of implications.

It’s confusing.

It says “I know you love me, because it’s been obvious for a long time…”. But it doesn’t let HER know how he feels exactly. It requires consideration. It dials up the tension. It’s amazing.

By the way, I read that when they were filming that scene Han was supposed to answer “I love you too”, but the director didn’t like it. They tried all kinds of things, and in the end Harrison Ford made up that line on the spot in one of the takes… and they kept it. Nice.

By the way, one of the BIG reasons why the newer movies in the Star Wars series suck is because there is no character like Han… think about it. It’s all boring, predictable stuff. There’s no sexy, arrogant, funny, wildcard personality messing things up.

Like I pointed out after I saw “Attack Of The Clones”, Anakin had to kill an ENTIRE VILLAGE of Sand People just to convince Princess A. that he wasn’t a complete and total Wuss. Would have been so much easier and more entertaining if he would have just had a PERSONALITY.

Whatever.

Now where was I…?

Oh, yea… amplifying the sexual tension…

If you’re out with a woman, and you tease her because she’s wearing four inch heels by saying “What’s the deal, are you four feet tall without those one?”, and she opens her mouth with the classic “Oh no you didn’t” look (smiling of course, with that surprised smile)… and you dial it up to the next level with “Oh, I’m sorry…Four foot three?”… and she hits you on the arm…

…and then she stops, puts her hand on your arm, and says “You know, you’re funny”…

…what do you do?

YOU SAY “YEA, I KNOW” – in a serious tone.

Or “Don’t try to use compliments to make me like you. It won’t work. Go buy me a drink or something… I prefer gifts and money.”

Or look down at her hand on your arm, lean back slightly, turn your head, and put your eyebrows together as if to say “Just WHAT do you think you’re doing touching me?!”.

TURN IT UP, my friend!

You TURN UP the tension.

AMPLIFY it.

Keep it going.

If you keep amplifying the tension and attraction at each of these wonderful moments, good things will happen.

Good stuff.

OK, I have a question.

Want more killer ideas like this one?

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David DeAngelo is the author of “Double Your Dating – What Every Man Should Know About How To Be Successful With Women”, and has taught thousands of men how to be more successful with women and dating.